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by phunkyfeelone » Wed Jan 09, 2019 6:18 pm
RustyNail wrote: Such sad news. Phunky.. the problem is it doesn't work for everyone. Last year we lost a friend of 35 years to depression. She was a loving mother of three boys, had the most incredible giving and loving husband.. and she solely built herself a very successful recruitment business. She battled depression for years. No matter how much love surrounded her and embraced her, she still never felt truly worthy. On the surface.. always vibrant and happy. Underneath.. very dark. I don't think anyone has a right answer.. but every effort helps and can save lives. As I mentioned, that has been my way, it's what suits my personality (mild OCD, highly logical). Wasn't suggesting it suits everyone. A few of my brothers friends, guys I grew up around, have also ended their lives. Guys that had family, kids, good jobs, nice houses, etc. Unfortunately in Annalise' case, she was an active depression advocate, and had direct access to resources. For whatever reason, she decided there was no way through her issues. Someone who seemingly had everything to live for felt she had nothing.
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by RustyNail » Wed Jan 09, 2019 8:59 pm
I'm glad it works for you.. I sincerely do. I've had three close friends including one work colleague lose their battle. One cannot say they fall victim to it as it is not something that is pre-motivated.
There is no perfect recipe, there is no cure or ideal consolation to those affected - including family. It is very unique in every person. All the best mate.
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by Lasered » Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:05 pm
Nope. Having thought about her a bit in the past day. There's something really unsatisfying about this. I've gone from disbelief to annoyed. As much as someone like me can be.
She would've lived a pretty indulgent and lush lifestyle. She would've knocked back many opportunities other women would've dreamed of having. If she actually has committed suicide, then that I think leaves a pretty sour legacy.
If Kate Fischer can find a certain fulfillment and strength the way her life tumbled upside down, then certainly Annalise could've.
I don't know if she had any problem with her parents, regretted not having a kid, or huge financial problems. Otherwise I cannot faintly understand what she's done.
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by phunkyfeelone » Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:46 pm
Lasered wrote: Nope. Having thought about her a bit in the past day. There's something really unsatisfying about this. I've gone from disbelief to annoyed. As much as someone like me can be.
She would've lived a pretty indulgent and lush lifestyle. She would've knocked back many opportunities other women would've dreamed of having. If she actually has committed suicide, then that I think leaves a pretty sour legacy.
If Kate Fischer can find a certain fulfillment and strength the way her life tumbled upside down, then certainly Annalise could've.
I don't know if she had any problem with her parents, regretted not having a kid, or huge financial problems. Otherwise I cannot faintly understand what she's done. Bit harsh, she's not alone in this in the community. Despite what many think, a lot of public faces aren't wealthy, they make their income from the celebrity they have achieved. Her 16 year marriage broke down last year, and she was left alone for the first time in more than 16 years. Her friends have said she would text at all hours asking for company, she was lonely like she'd never been in her life. Also, her ex husband was a wealthy stock broker, and she had to adapt to a self supporting life. As they chose not to have children (she herself stated this), and they both worked throughout the marriage, divorce law is typically divided by what they contributed. So she was left with not a lot, she admitted that her aim in year 1 post-divorce was to save and buy her own apartment, which she did in November. She thought this was going to help her move on, but it didn't.
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by DC.. » Thu Jan 10, 2019 2:08 am
Depression does not give flying _____ about age gender race or ones bank account Money fame success doesn't make you exempt from depression Annalise is the perfect example of that
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by RustyNail » Fri Jan 11, 2019 2:42 am
You only need to read what I wrote about my friend of many years. Depression does not discriminate who you are, how successful or not.
There are a lot of questions. The problem is.. every question about depression can never receive a correct answer. Why? Because it is unique in every single person.
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by Snorter » Fri Jan 11, 2019 5:54 pm
A lot of misinformation here.
Her husband isn’t wealthy and they led a pretty modest life. He indulged her as much as he could. She initiated the breakup. The decision not to have children was hers and she was happy with that choice. She had depression and found it hard to come to terms with aging. She did not have much money as the separation left her with half of not much to start with.
And suicide is still not confirmed. It may yet be ruled an accidental overdose.
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by Spur001 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 7:35 pm
Speaking as somebody who's had long-term issues with depression, depression doesn't discriminate.
The circumstances don't really matter.
If it was suicide, it's tragic that she got to a point that she didn't feel she could reach out to anybody, and that she had no other recourse.
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by Apocalypse » Thu Apr 11, 2019 8:27 pm
Is it wrong that I still wanna fap to that last pic she posted to FB?
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